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Tutors should "set an agenda" of some sort, right? Well, lately I feel like I am discovering a gap between what the student wants to accomplish in a tutoring session and what I want to accomplish. I'm afraid that I might be missing an important step in the negotiation process. But I don't think so. I ask what the assignment is, who the teacher is... what the student would like to talk about... I ask questions... I give options. This is good; is it not?
Well, what if I have already worked with a student before? Does that mean that the student and I should go through the "setting the agenda for the next 30 minutes" thing again? To answer my own question: YES. I think so. Otherwise you could experience the same session again. I know because I've done it. What happens if you don't set the agenda? Either hardly anything productive and much confusion on my part (was I any good at all? We didn't have a goal so we didn't get anywhere) or you fall back to the goal you had last time and you achieve it like you did last time.
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I know it was a while ago when we talked about setting the agenda, and don't think that I just barely get it. Don't think, "oh, gees, Kassie. You can't set the agenda? We talked about that so long ago." I can--- I negotiate the best that I can anyway. But I can't do it alone. What I'm getting at is....Negotiation: it takes more than one person. Tutors can't negotiate a session alone. I understand a student might want control of the session; he or she knows what they want to accomplish, but I'm getting paid to help them... can't the student and I come to a compromised goal? I feel like saying, "At least let me know where you're going; let me see if I can help you. Isn't that why you signed up for a session?"
On the flip side, tutors don't want to "take-over," especially right from the start. There needs to be common ground. I think that is where I am finding the gap. It's a communication gap. If the student doesn't want to find common ground and I can't convince the writer to let me in on the objective of the session so we can work together... then what? Should I be like