Women and Men: The International Edition
By the time international
students have attained a level of fluency where they can use services at the
Writing Center, they should be acculturated enough to American society that
they can accept help from any tutor, regardless of age, gender, or ethnicity.
“Should” leaves a lot of wiggle room, for international and local students.
While
working with sheltered, International English 1010 classes for a couple of
semesters, I did not encounter any male students who directly said “I will not
learn from a woman.” On the other hand, Dr. Byrd, in the education department, tells a story about
a female professor at another university who had a belligerent male
student from another country in her class. The conflict reached the highest level
of the university. What I have discovered, similar to the experiences of other
female tutors / teachers with international men, is more passive disrespect,
inattention, and active, though not confrontational, detachment (young men
looking at their phones, or chatting with friends).
Sometimes, behavior may be
subtle and an innate reaction to cultural conditioning, such as not using the
left hand in some Middle Eastern cultures. These sorts of actions might never
be overcome, and might always linger without unduly compromising the student’s
ability to function fully in American society.
I
find that confrontational behavior is the exception rather than the
rule. When I have directly asked young men from countries that isolate women
from men, most say that it is okay to work with a woman. I try to remain at
more of a discrete distance from these students and not force my physical
presence on them. At the Writing Center, we are cognizant of some of the
cultural beliefs regarding interaction between the genders, and actively work
to be respectful without compromising our own personal and cultural beliefs. We
work as cultural translators, informing newcomers of cultural expectations that
may differ greatly from heritage beliefs. Sometimes we encounter students who
are still in the process of acculturation, or those who refuse to acculturate.
I
see more of a concern when female international students need to work with male
tutors. Often, these women will be in classes alongside other women, and men, from
their home culture. If the culture forbids interaction between men and women,
these women may resist working in mixed groups during class time. Likewise,
they may be extremely uncomfortable with a one on one tutoring session with a
male. The women, even though they are living here, are sometimes still expected
by the men in their community to follow the cultural norms of the home country.
During the day, some female students may spend a few hours on campus, but then
go home at night to a culture that may still be highly traditional. I have also
discovered that it is not unusual for students in some ethnic student groups to
be related. Brothers, sisters, cousins may all be watching one another for
slippage from traditional roles. Most women become more culturally skilled at
American behavior the longer they are here, and some international women are
already well versed in cultural behavior when they arrive here.
We
do not need to make accommodations for international male students who come
into the Writing Center. Some of them may not like working with a woman, but
women in the United States expect to be treated with respect, as equals. Women
may have to be firm in culturally educating some international students, which
may be uncomfortable and downright wearying for the female tutor / teacher.
However, a female tutor / teacher needs to be able to stop a session and call a
supervisor if the student becomes openly combative. We should take greater
thought with assigning female international students to male tutors. I would
not ask a female student if she prefers a tutor of the same gender, but if she asks
for a woman tutor, I would tend to honor the request because of possible
consequences that student may face at home in the less populated, but strongly
influential culture of others from her home country.
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