Accommodations

I would really like to continue the discussion that we grappled with a bit on Wednesday.  Two of you pointed out that there is an inconsistency in the way we treat international students' expectations of women and the way we might treat sexism or racism.

I keep thinking about this in terms of the South.  Would a Southerner from the segregated South studying abroad in, say, England, have had his discomfort being tutored by a black student accommodated?  Respected?  Is respecting a foreign student's discomfort being tutored by a woman any different?  Where do we draw the line in respecting cultural values and mores?